Well, week one of summer softball 2009 is behind me! Out of my four teams...the record is 1-2, with one rainout! Not used to losing, so that's definitely a rough start in my book, but it definitely is absolultey fantastic to be out w/ my friends again the majority of the week doing something that I LOVE!!!!
....side note...I just need to get a bit better about sunscreen....although I did apply it today before leaving the house...it didn't prevent me from coming hope quite lobster-like for the second day in a row...guess I still have a lot to learn! But...I am doing just that...L.E.A.R.N.I.N.G....and at almost 32yo....it just goes to show that it's never too late to learn :) (I heard my Momma in my head all day - "make sure you use sunscreen" :D
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Friday, April 24, 2009
a possible insight into it all?
I'm not sure where to even begin or even if this is the right place to be writing. I started on a piece of notebook paper but figured that I can type much faster than I can write...and when I should be doing homework, it's probably the smartest way to do it.
I have had so much going on lately and I notice more and more as the months go on that I'm internalizing so much and am not as outgoing as I used to be. I think it's because trust has become such an issue over the last months and year or so that maybe I'm just a bit more careful with whom I share things with. Sometimes, it's just easier not to share at all. This blog isn't out there to too many people, especially to those I see and interact with everyday...which is why I'm posting here...to get my thoughts out without worrying about who sees...maybe once I write them, I can begin to process them and go forward.
It was brought to my attention today at lunch with a very close friend that we are in very much the same boat on a personal/relationship-type level. We both have been in the relationship that we knew we would spend the rest of our lives with...the one that was to be our forever...THE one..we gave it all...put everything we had into the relationship that we had physically and emotionally and spiritually and in every other aspect we can think of. ...only to have it slip away. Maybe "slip away" is the wrong term...but it ended just the same. and we fought..and we cried and tried and hoped and prayed....but yet in the end...it was truly that, the end and time to go our separate ways. And so we did. both of us. But as we talk each day and experience different things in our lives, it's like we are living the same situation. Trying to move on w/ someone that can be completely good for each of us individually....yet it doesn't work because we are still just worn down and exhausted and even angry at times that we don't have anything left to give this new person. We get annoyed at the new person for the stupidest things...because it should be someone else. There's a difference there ... I'm in a relationship with a new person and she has the potential yet can't make that step. Regardless, at times we act and react in ways that we shouldn't, if you would take away everything else that we've been through.
So how do we get past this? I thought I was over the last relationship and had come to terms with the fact that it's over and "everything happens for a reason"....but with today's lunch talk, it appears I'm not over "having it all" even if I'm over the "ex". It's like I'm hoping and wishing to find it over again and doing what I can for this one to be the right one. Each day I think about what it is in life that I want...the house, the family, the loving partner and children....but have I truly given myself the time to heal and reconnect with myself on a much deeper level? I'm sure I know the answer......and I do.....but it's hard to face the reality. Steps I've taken to move forward will prove to make taking time out for myself to reconnect to "me" more difficult....
...all I know is there's got to be a way. and finally, after much heartache and hurt and confusion and pain, I'm reaching out to a professional....and I'm definitely not ashamed. it's a crazy and intense world we live in now...with many different struggles thrown at us each and every day...it's time for me to get a grasp on my life and all that's in it and start on the healing path to happiness, the kind that I know i deserve.
I have had so much going on lately and I notice more and more as the months go on that I'm internalizing so much and am not as outgoing as I used to be. I think it's because trust has become such an issue over the last months and year or so that maybe I'm just a bit more careful with whom I share things with. Sometimes, it's just easier not to share at all. This blog isn't out there to too many people, especially to those I see and interact with everyday...which is why I'm posting here...to get my thoughts out without worrying about who sees...maybe once I write them, I can begin to process them and go forward.
It was brought to my attention today at lunch with a very close friend that we are in very much the same boat on a personal/relationship-type level. We both have been in the relationship that we knew we would spend the rest of our lives with...the one that was to be our forever...THE one..we gave it all...put everything we had into the relationship that we had physically and emotionally and spiritually and in every other aspect we can think of. ...only to have it slip away. Maybe "slip away" is the wrong term...but it ended just the same. and we fought..and we cried and tried and hoped and prayed....but yet in the end...it was truly that, the end and time to go our separate ways. And so we did. both of us. But as we talk each day and experience different things in our lives, it's like we are living the same situation. Trying to move on w/ someone that can be completely good for each of us individually....yet it doesn't work because we are still just worn down and exhausted and even angry at times that we don't have anything left to give this new person. We get annoyed at the new person for the stupidest things...because it should be someone else. There's a difference there ... I'm in a relationship with a new person and she has the potential yet can't make that step. Regardless, at times we act and react in ways that we shouldn't, if you would take away everything else that we've been through.
So how do we get past this? I thought I was over the last relationship and had come to terms with the fact that it's over and "everything happens for a reason"....but with today's lunch talk, it appears I'm not over "having it all" even if I'm over the "ex". It's like I'm hoping and wishing to find it over again and doing what I can for this one to be the right one. Each day I think about what it is in life that I want...the house, the family, the loving partner and children....but have I truly given myself the time to heal and reconnect with myself on a much deeper level? I'm sure I know the answer......and I do.....but it's hard to face the reality. Steps I've taken to move forward will prove to make taking time out for myself to reconnect to "me" more difficult....
...all I know is there's got to be a way. and finally, after much heartache and hurt and confusion and pain, I'm reaching out to a professional....and I'm definitely not ashamed. it's a crazy and intense world we live in now...with many different struggles thrown at us each and every day...it's time for me to get a grasp on my life and all that's in it and start on the healing path to happiness, the kind that I know i deserve.
Monday, April 6, 2009
April 2009 already?
Wow, so it's been many many months since I've posted last...since November to be exact! I never know what to post...I never think I have anything interesting so I don't. Then, time gets away from me and it's April before I know it!
Yesterday, I played softball outside in shorts and a t-shirt...68 degrees.
Today, it's raining and snowing...34 degrees.
This, my friends, does NOT make for a good April!
However, I'm positive great things are going to become of this month...
*the current school session will end! F.I.N.A.L.L.Y.! Intermediate Accounting II and Fed Tax I have not been the greatest to take together for 15 long, drawn out weeks!
*softball is starting...another summer full of 4 teams of fun! Have had a couple practices and it appears losing so much weight has done wonders for the ol' hitting! who'da'thunk?!
*a new baby nephew will be born rather soon! I absolutely cannot wait!!!
....and then it's back to school...but mixed with softball it's got to be better than this winter term has been! Hopefully the sun will come out...tomorrow...whew, sometimes I just break out into song! (I think I get this honestly, right Mom?)
Ok, well enough of me blogging for now. There is a "not-so-fun Int. Acct II" test in my near future...like tomorrow! Blah! Any takers?? :)
xoxo
Yesterday, I played softball outside in shorts and a t-shirt...68 degrees.
Today, it's raining and snowing...34 degrees.
This, my friends, does NOT make for a good April!
However, I'm positive great things are going to become of this month...
*the current school session will end! F.I.N.A.L.L.Y.! Intermediate Accounting II and Fed Tax I have not been the greatest to take together for 15 long, drawn out weeks!
*softball is starting...another summer full of 4 teams of fun! Have had a couple practices and it appears losing so much weight has done wonders for the ol' hitting! who'da'thunk?!
*a new baby nephew will be born rather soon! I absolutely cannot wait!!!
....and then it's back to school...but mixed with softball it's got to be better than this winter term has been! Hopefully the sun will come out...tomorrow...whew, sometimes I just break out into song! (I think I get this honestly, right Mom?)
Ok, well enough of me blogging for now. There is a "not-so-fun Int. Acct II" test in my near future...like tomorrow! Blah! Any takers?? :)
xoxo
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Light the Night, 2008
October 18, 2008 marked my first Light the Night walk of my life...just the start of my participation in this wonderful cause. Light the Night is a one mile walk in the evening to raise money for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. Many corporations form teams, many families form teams, and many individuals participate. I was fortunate enough to participate with my employer, Huntington National Bank, who had the MOST registered walkers of all...308 by the time the walk started!! Something we were very proud of! In addition to having the most walkers, we were able to raise over $36000 at last count with more money coming in. Personally, I raised $551, which exceeded my personal goal. **update...I just received a letter from the Leukemia and Lymphoma society saying there were approximately 6,500 walkers and we raised over $580,000!!!**
The night was full of different ceremonies to participate in. The memorial ceremony was held early in the evening, one I participated in. After words were spoken, we lined up to honor our loved ones lost to either form of cancer. I was nervous to get in line because I'm so shy but I'll do anything to honor my sister. Once it was my turn, I was given a red carnation and the microphone which I proudly told the world "Jennifer Lyn McColley". My very loving and amazing sister I lost 11.5 years ago to Leukemia. I then wrote her name on a yellow ribbon to keep, placed the red carnation in the vase to be displayed later, and received a Gold "in memory" balloon to carry during the walk!
The night was full of different ceremonies to participate in. The memorial ceremony was held early in the evening, one I participated in. After words were spoken, we lined up to honor our loved ones lost to either form of cancer. I was nervous to get in line because I'm so shy but I'll do anything to honor my sister. Once it was my turn, I was given a red carnation and the microphone which I proudly told the world "Jennifer Lyn McColley". My very loving and amazing sister I lost 11.5 years ago to Leukemia. I then wrote her name on a yellow ribbon to keep, placed the red carnation in the vase to be displayed later, and received a Gold "in memory" balloon to carry during the walk!
When the the sun set and the moon came out, the walk was about to begin. Our table was at the front of the line so we were the first to start the walk!! At 7:45pm, we began the short trek around the 1 mile track at a park on the campus of Ohio State University. Chilly and breezy, no one seemed to mind. The memories of our loved ones being shared with each other as we walked. My heart was warm as I shared stories to friends and a coworker. Missing my sister so much!! What was so amazing...as the front of the line was done as well as almost done...there were walkers just getting started!! Had we stretched out side by side, we would have well surpassed the one mile of track!! It was truly amazing...red and gold balloons w/ lights inside lined the track...being carried by the young and the old. Truly amazing and an event I plan to make a yearly way to remember my loving sister, taken to early from this earth!!!
Jen - I miss you! I love you! I think about you each and everyday and pray that I make you proud! When it's my turn to leave this earth, it's you I will find first!!!!!!
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
he's 17....i'm old...
today marks the day that my oldest nephew turns 17.
I remember the day leading up to his birth like it was yesterday.
My sister was in labor for more than a day.
I played out in the median w/ the neighborhood kids.
I swung Christy around and around by her arm til she let go and went flying.
I, along w/ my family, waited hours at the hospital in uncomfortable chairs, sitting and pacing.
Waiting for the first grandchild...nephew...to arrive.
He was stuck...he wasn't coming out!
And then FINALLY.....he arrived!!!
Baby Derrick was safe in his mommy's arms, all 10 fingers and all 10 toes.
I got to miss school the next day to sleep.
I remember sitting in the rocking chair at the hospital later that day, hair french braided, sweatsuit on, in heaven w/ my adorable nephew in my arms!!
I was 14.
Now, as he turns 17...I am amazed at the young man he has become. As his Mom watches him from heaven, I know that she is proud of him!!! She did a wonderful job raising him in his early years before she was called up to be his angel.
Here's to the next 17 years....as we both get older by the day!!!!
I remember the day leading up to his birth like it was yesterday.
My sister was in labor for more than a day.
I played out in the median w/ the neighborhood kids.
I swung Christy around and around by her arm til she let go and went flying.
I, along w/ my family, waited hours at the hospital in uncomfortable chairs, sitting and pacing.
Waiting for the first grandchild...nephew...to arrive.
He was stuck...he wasn't coming out!
And then FINALLY.....he arrived!!!
Baby Derrick was safe in his mommy's arms, all 10 fingers and all 10 toes.
I got to miss school the next day to sleep.
I remember sitting in the rocking chair at the hospital later that day, hair french braided, sweatsuit on, in heaven w/ my adorable nephew in my arms!!
I was 14.
Now, as he turns 17...I am amazed at the young man he has become. As his Mom watches him from heaven, I know that she is proud of him!!! She did a wonderful job raising him in his early years before she was called up to be his angel.
Here's to the next 17 years....as we both get older by the day!!!!
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Newbie...
although i have many blogs saved as favorites ... i've never really attempted to start my own. the desire has always been there ... but i've never really known what to write. are there things worth posting? is my life exciting enough to fill a blog? will anyone want to read?
well, there's only one way to find out!!!
here goes................................
well, there's only one way to find out!!!
here goes................................
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